To those who still doubt, I confirm that children are naturally cruel of them, but when there is difference is even worse.
I've always been impressed by the insight of children and I noticed that all children have felt much more quickly than adults that Rosa was different.
In absolute terms it does not bother me because I always enjoyed singularity, but Rosa resents his difference and she felt very early, so the eyes of other children is very important for her.
After her "incident" on repeat CP and CE1, Rosa has been labeled and much more than it has been a long time, it is always treated like a leper. In his school they call the "outdated", do not touch it for fear of being defiled. He also said that it "reeks of excrement", which obviously is wrong, but the cruelty has no limits for children.
What is said about their sister very sorry to his brothers and as she understood that there is not much to do there, Rosa says little.
I have always been attentive to what she is wearing well and well dressed, but since the beginning we try to be "fashionable" for me who hates the standardization is difficult, but we must recognize that greater acceptance by other children pass by, even if you do happen in the other side of the problem: jealousy.
The other children have long been jealous of my availability for Rosa, they do not see that I'm going to take him to appointments paramedics that may be painful (for extra work), they only see that Rosa is fortunate to have his mom comes to pick at the end of lunch to spend time with her. I'd be lying if I said that these moments together every two even time for a drive, do not make me happy. It is a moment of complicity additional, as with his brothers when I accompany them to the sport.
Children have other reasons for jealousy because Rosa is greatly appreciated by adults who care for her. She is calm, deliberate, intelligent, sensitive and sometimes naughty. It is a great comfort to me knowing it surrounded by caring and motivated to help, but its "treatment Favor "is not immune to other children and the arrival of the AVS in the class has exacerbated resentments.
An hour before his birthday celebration Rosa terrible anguish at the thought that nobody comes. The majority of girls whom she had given an invitation card tore the cards in front of everyone and announced aloud does not want to go to the anniversary of the "outdated".
Finally came eight children (children of women with whom I get along well and enjoy Rosa, not a chance) and she was thrilled. Those who did not come were jealous to know that Rosa had a nice birthday and finally redoubled malice on Monday. Besides the AVS so pretty, who comes every afternoon to help Rosa is a bit unfair, they think.
AVS mission is to help Rosa to organize, it copies the lessons when Rosa was tired, reformulates work instructions spoken, when the teacher has written on the blackboard, using to pack his locker, etc.. Rosa can not recreate what she sees, you should use the audito-verbal channel to allow it to assimilate information. Where it would eventually be if his dyspraxia dysgraphia had been diagnosed, it appears that she is very strong in spelling, since he is made to spell words. To teach him vocabulary words, just spell them, stores them and can write without mistakes. When we did it several times to copy "that they fit him in the head," was the worst of solutions, it became confused in his head As his writing deteriorated. The copy is extremely harmful.
Regarding graphics to give you an idea of its difficulties, you should imagine that you have in mind a fairy tale castle perfect, with beautiful colors. In your head what castle is perfect, but the transmission of information to your hands to realize is wrong, then ultimately the castle is distorted. The gap between the mental representation that is a perfect child with dyspraxia and its implementation on the paper is enormous and very disappointing for the child. When the more he tries to recreate a geometric shape that can not see completely (Rosa has no vision in three D), it is already distorted in his mind, imagine you praxis with disabilities in addition the final production of the child has very little to do with the original model.
We know all the ways that some materials it will always be extremely painful. Maps of geography include too much information and too difficult for him to be accessible location. Similarly, again because of its visuo-spatial, a frieze is historic for her torture. There is software to help fill these gaps, Rosa is expected to pass to the use of computers gradually with an occupational therapist.
From January a therapist specializing scheduled to visit the school to help Rosa for an hour to use his hands better and develop methods to better orient themselves in space. When we went to review the occupational therapist was totally blown away by the accuracy of the definition that Rosa had found for his dyspraxia, "My head does not command much in my hands, but yet my head going quite well "
Rosa has made incredible strides since the advent of the AVS, I have yet encountered. It's always a little hard socially, but she gained confidence, she denigrates less. There are summer camps for children dyspraxia and I do not rule to take him there so she could meet other children with similar disorders to feel less alone, but on the other side I do not want to put in a special school because I want to make sure the company is playing its role of inclusion and respect for differences and that Rosa finally accept their differences and live happily enhancing its many qualities and strength.
I must say I am well aware that she had the chance to fall for my daughter, to great people and in particular teachers who were always eager to pull up, while n 'forgetting that she remains a child.
Last night I met a teacher who was very amused to see me and my rebel bitch who took his defense, saying it worked very well in school, she was very wise and that it had to leave the "romp" on house, like all children his age.
His brothers are jealous as all siblings, but like its big brother will return in 6 th next year, I try to push him to greater autonomy in how to revise. Not only is it not easy for him because he has always been very conscious of my gaze on him and he appreciates that we work together, but I understood that in addition he interpreted this as an abandonment for more take care of Rosa. We'll have to put the record straight and find the right balance for everyone.
It's homework time!
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